What happens when you put two You-Ambassadors in a bed together? Nothing! At least not for a long time, until they will obviously have a dramatic argument.
The area of dating is a field in which you-messages are often used. This is perfectly understandable: nothing is more suitable than a you-message to indulge in the fear of intimacy or to bathe in the meaninglessness of existence and to give in to the accompanying doubts as to whether the other person is really capable of breathing meaning into one' s life. The you-messages are also good for breaking off with someone you're not really sure anymore why you're keeping in touch. Nothing is better than a you-message to break up dating.
Ideally, at the beginning of meeting someone new, you drop a sentence like "You're very different from my former dates." and then when you've had enough, you simply come up with the all-around classic: "You're just like my ex-boyfriends/girlfriends." (delivered with a negative vibe). That's well-rounded. Closed. A fine piece of work.
Well, and in case you missed the opportunity at the beginning, you can still fall back on other you-messages later, such as: "You only think about yourself during sex!" By the way, you should then avoid the clarifying conversation by all means and do not take a step towards the other person. It is best to just send another you-message: "Do what you want. I don't really care, bye!" Et voilá, all chocolate is yours. Happy Valentine 💜